The way you think has a large part to do with how you learn. Having a positive outlook on yourself and on life can truly take you far. Leadership, willingness to go out of your comfort zone, and an ability to see people in a positive light, are all traits that are related to how you see yourself, and therefore related to confidence. My friend Jon explores confidence in this piece:
Confidence is the root of all things good. Once you are confident your thinking evolves and you transform into this being at peace with yourself and everyone around you. If you believe in yourself and follow your heart when it knocks on your chest the first time around, listen. Don’t cower away and ignore your brain when its telling you to take a risk or to do something outside of your norms. The next time your heart knocks on your chest these knocks will become decreasingly loud until the constant ignoring creates a shy, and probably frustrated person. This frustration is a source of the anger and resentment you feel towards yourself for not being confident in the first place. The way you eliminate this cycle of frustration is to pursue confidence from the get-go.
What if your problem is that you don’t speak up enough? Well the solution to your confidence issue is purposely embarrassing yourself. If your socially awkward just let your awkwardness guide you. If people give you a stink eye, feel bad for 5 minutes, and then get over it. Once you do this multiple times you build up your confidence levels to a point that you do what you want to do with emphasis and with passion. This is the way to make yourself less sub-conscience. It’s all about practice. I used to do this all the time when I had this problem. I was very quiet, and kept a lot to myself. I had all of these cool ideas swimming in my head and they never made it out of the pool because I drowned them before they could get out. I was so nervous to speak out in front of people that I suppressed my ideas and started to hate myself. One day I couldn’t take it anymore so I was like, “Forget this, I’m cracking jokes”. My jokes were horrible, I was super corny, and people looked at me like they wanted to stab me. If I went to another one of the high schools near my home, there was a good chance that someone might have actually stabbed me (I’m not joking). However, I was finally building the fearlessness I needed to get my ideas out. Once I got these terrible jokes out of the way I substituted them with the awesomeness in my mind and became known for my interesting thinking. I was now confident, but when I see someone with a lack of confidence I remember the old me, and try to feed their egos. Someone that looks like they need to be praised should be praised, and their confidence soars. Even if it’s not someone you know that well, TRY. You build their confidence, while building your own by talking to a person that is nearly a stranger and helping them.
The moral of the story is that confidence isn’t a trait that only certain people have. It’s a process, and the more you practice being confident the more confident you will become. So next time your heart knocks on your chest, open yourself up and let whatever comes out into the air so that you can get that confidence that will allow you to accomplish your goals. Whether these goals are to become a sports star, a media star, an actor/actress, a model, a writer, a musician, or even a janitor you go for it and make it happen.
Peace and Love J.D.